Break Up Advice for the Dumpee!

It Happens To Everyone.

Everyone gets dumped in a relationship at some point. If you've been through it enough you may be somewhat immune to it and therefore not need any help. Que sera sera. If you are like I was when I got dumped/divorced you become a babbling idiot and almost a menace to society. Until you can get a grip again anyway. So whatever level your relationship was at when you got dumped you can learn from my scars as I tell my story and hopefully give aid and comfort to the dumpee.

Muddy Waters.

It took me a couple years to get over being dumped after my divorce. My Ex had not done a nice honorable clean break. No the waters were very muddy if you get my drift and the actual end of the marriage took a long time, about 3 1/2 -4 years.

Dark Days!

Plenty of time to mess up my head. But I stuck with things trying to make it better because we had 2 little ones. In the end my heart was broken and I had a hard time being the dumpee. Because of the kids going back and forth I had reason to bump into her several times a week which didn't help. And on and on. These were my dark days.

Not Myself!

I wasn't the type of father I wanted to be during this time. I was always distracted, my mind couldn't stay focused. I'd lose my temper easier. I had to find some way to get my old self back, to move on with life. To get over this woman and what she had done to me. To heal my heart.

Nothing Worked!

I tried a bunch of things, you know the obvious negative behavior, too much alcohol. Too many fly by night relationships. I did some positive things too. Things that made me feel better about myself, like volunteering and I took up kick boxing. Working out several times a week really helped me to reduce my stress and channel my aggression.

Tried Visualization!

It was at this time I learned about athletes like Tiger Woods using visualization to maximize their performance. My kick boxing instructor was an advocate of visualization so I thought I'd give it a try. I bought a great program about visualization called "Infinite Possibilities". I highly recommend it and really enjoyed listening to the authors philosophy but I had a hard time visualizing on my own, my mind would wander too easily. I tried faithfully for a few months but became frustrated due to a lack of improvement. And I was still feeling heart broken, still couldn't sleep good for stretches of days or weeks at a time and unable to move on much.

Hypnosis?

Then one day another friend of mine, a heavy smoker was asking me about my kick boxing class. He had given up smoking a few weeks before and was thinking about joining our class. When I asked him about how he quit smoking he explained he used hypnosis. Self hypnosis to be exact.

Finally a Breakthrough!

It turned out, after my friend explained further that what he called self hypnosis I would call it guided visualization. So I investigated things further and found that there was a self hypnosis program to get over a relationship. The price for a download session was only $13. Heck I'd have paid double that for a good nights sleep on many occasions. I had the program on my laptop in a few minutes and hooked up my headphones and laid down on my couch and let the hypnosis do its thing. I couldn't believe how relaxed I was able to get. That part was amazing, and the voice on the recording was warm and friendly but I was so relaxed that I only heard a little bit of what was said. Before I knew it the session was over and the voice was tell me to come awake refreshed and alert, and I did. I thought it was pretty cool and slept like a log that night. I listened every day for a week and noticed I had stopped thinking about my Ex. I listened for another week to be sure and nothing, no Ex anxiety, no sleepless nights, I could stay focused on things for longer and longer.

Cured!

I was cured, and now I use hypnosis for other areas of my life I'd like to enhance. Let's face it sometimes there's some things you can't do by yourself. If you are struggling with feelings for your Ex. If your heart is broken and hurting. If you can't sleep or eat. If you check your cell every 5 minutes hoping for a text or call. If you check your email constantly hoping for any message from your Ex. You need something like self hypnosis to help you move on. If you've been struggling for weeks or months with these symptoms you owe it to yourself to check it out.

Another Benefit.

One other side of this, if you'd like any chance to reconnect with your Ex. Your best bet is to get over them. Nothing turns one off like neediness. And Confidence and self reliance are huge turn-ons. Wanna turn them on again get over them. I know its counter intuitive but its true, get over them and move on and they'll notice and respond. Only this time you'll be in the drivers seat. There's a good chance others will notice you too, that's the ultimate.

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